The Art Of Moving On : Practical Techniques On How To Let Go And Move On After A Nasty Breakup

"Sometimes you just have to turn around, give a little smile, throw the match and burn that bridge. Learn from your mistakes and change them for the better."

Hey fellow readers! Let me tell you all a little bit about myself before we go on this journey of  'Moving On'. First! I am just a person. Second ! I have also been in love and have had my heart broken into small, tiny, microscopic pieces. Third! I am not a relationship expert who has all the answers and I'm sure nobody has. What I have to offer, is an experience, an experience that I will share with you in parts.

'Moving On' is an art and since we all are artists in some way or the other we can all learn to practice this art and master it eventually. An attachment to the past not only gives rise to unnecessary emotional stress but also hinders the natural process through which you improve and transform yourself to become a better human being. A large part of the human race, the young and the old, find it difficult to move on after a break up.

"A body tends to be in its present state before being acted upon by some force," as Newton says it; the first law of motion is so analogous to our psyche as well. We are resistant to change, always reluctant to move forward. We always want the old ways back, we are emotionally tied up to the place we grew up, we're emotionally tied to our first bike, our families and our childhood pet. While all these memories are healthy, emotional attachment to your EX can be detrimental to your emotional and physical well being.

Here are some powerful tips that, if taken seriously, will surely help you to forget about her and get on with your life.

Moving On Tip No.1 

Decide firmly that you want to move on : Are you sure you want to move on and you definitely don't want to go back and make things better? Yes ? Then carry on reading. First, make sure that you won't go back what comes may. Whenever you have a strong urge to go back, think of the scenarios that will help you to stay away from her. It may be the regular fights, the constant nagging, her many male friends, her habit of flirting with other guys, her non-understanding attitude, her indifference towards you, etc. Think about what may go wrong if you get back together. Write it down on a piece of paper and say it out loud. Maybe you are sure that the flame wont be reignited, that you are exhausted,  and that going back will only make things worse for you if not better.

After thinking about all this are you still sure? Then read further my dear friend !

Moving On Tip No.2

Remind yourself the kind of 'BITCH' she was : Remember the day when she turned your friends against you? Or when she told you that she's out with her family and went to meet a mysterious guy friend? Or do you remember how bad she made you feel about yourself everyday ? Or how she ignores your calls when she is with her friends ? Also, do you remember when she said that she will leave you if her parents won't approve of you?
Every time you feel like going back to her, please remind yourself what kind of a bitch she was to make you feel so angry so unwanted and unappreciated. How she cheated or fooled you into believing that this relationship will last forever or that she will never ever leave you or lie to you.

Moving On Tip No.3

If she's happy without you then why can't you be? : Girls have an excellent ability, the ability which helps them score good grades even when their relationships are going through a hard phase or even in the midst of a break up; if you are put in the same scenario you will hopelessly struggle to concentrate on a single word and have difficulty to even score a decent 'D'. It is a very rare gift from the almighty, a gift of 'forgetfulness'. They can easily forget anyone or anything. So far, guys have not been able to develop this ability but I'm sure evolution will help bring this ability in the future men's race and then we can be at par with  ladies on this so called 'GIFT OF FORGETFULNESS'. Until then keep fighting the good fight comrades!

Yes, girls forget and she has forgotten everything about you. She's forgotten all about the great times you had, the bond that you shared, the compassionate kisses and intimate hugs. She may also be busy making new memories altogether with your best friend, then why do you have to bother so much and stick yourself to those past experiences. Be happy, talk to new people,date, flirt and make your own experiences. Do whatever makes you happy. What would you like to do if you had time just for yourself? Do it now, this is the right time. Make use of this period of joy, it is also a gift from the almighty. Think about the activities that make you happy rather thinking about her and just go forth and do those activities.

Moving On Tip No.4

You Are Awesome. Love and reward yourself everyday : Remember ! You are You!!  Shun any self-deprecating thought. Hit the gym, go swimming, go watch your favorite game or immerse yourself in an activity that you love to do. Make use of the new found freedom and do something constructive with it. Remember that being in a romantic relation is a full time job and does not give you enough time to concentrate on yourself and the things that matter to you.

Start Loving yourself, you are awesome!

Moving On Tip No.5

Stop hitting yourself, stop hitting yourself, why are you still hitting yourself ? (In the words of the great Mike Myers): Got this one from the movie 'The Love Guru'. The most important thing that you should stop doing right now is blaming yourself. If anything, blame her ! Blame her for not understanding, for not paying attention to your wants and desires. Blame her for her selfishness and egoism. Blame her for lying to you. Have infallible faith in yourself when you blame her. Thoroughly believe that whatever blame you are putting on her is absolutely correct. This will give you a satisfaction that you could never have imagined, try it and experience the 'Wonders of blaming'.

Moving On Tip No.6

Understand that pain is only transient : You need to understand that what you are feeling right now is only transient and will only last until you have found yourself a suitable match. One of the goals of the human race is to find a suitable match and live their whole lives with them or in a nutshell 'Reproduce'. Understand that the goal will be reached eventually but now the path will be different. The pain will only last until you find the one who is best for you. Until then live your life going around with random chicks and being hopeful in the background.

I will be posting some more tips on the Art Of Moving On, until then practice all the techniques given above and tell me how they make you feel. Keep visiting my blog as I try to fight this 'Not Moving On Amongst Guys' syndrome.

Good Day Folks - Morning Wishes From A Fellow Indian Friend

I always wonder what would it feel like if the sun rises right in front me at 12 in the midnight while I'm preparing myself for a good night's sleep after finishing the day's work. It’s midnight here in India and almost everyone around me has fallen asleep, so I thought about writing this article for the people living in countries where the sun has already risen or is about to rise.

 Howdy dear friends! Hope your day turns out to be a great. I hope you get through this day without being run over by a vehicle, without slipping and felling on a banana skin, carelessly thrown by some idiot, on the road; without being shouted at by your boss and without having to work for more than 8 hours on this day. I wish that your spouse maintains a good mood throughout the day and treats you with intimate kisses and hugs whenever you meet her and that she does not pester to meet your in-laws and I also wish that she gives you enough space to let you watch your favorite game and most importantly I wish she understands you this day. I hope that your coffee machine does not malfunction and I also hope that your dog does not piss on your couch today. I pray for the late comers that they are able to get the cab on time and are not stymied by traffic along the way. I sincerely wish that your colleague does not try to get credit for your idea, that you secretly told him, by babbling it out to the boss before you were able to. For the single people I wish you get your “damsel in distress” and are able to discover your princely ways and long lost heroism by rescuing her or her Apso (one and the same thing). For the fat ones I hope that “fate keeps you away from Pizza Hut’s way”. For the beautiful I hope your sunscreen does a good job by saving you from all that unhealthy UV radiations and also that your beauty enhancing efforts are recognized in your circle. For the crazy ones I hope you find your craze. For the lazy ones I wish you find a way to earn money by keeping your lethargy and integrity intact. For the hard workers I wish your vacation plan doesn't get screwed and your leaves are approved by your boss. For the nagging ones I hope you do not have a “busy day” .

With all these crazy wishes I wish you all a VERY GOOD MORNING while I will sleep in sleep’s tight and comfy embrace and prepare for my crazy day tomorrow.

You Are A Controversy : LIVE IT !!!!!

"Please every one and you'll be fine. Don't please yourself and one day you'll surely ruin for life."

Have you ever stirred any controversy? Have you ever made heads turn? No? Then dude what are you living for? Ever wondered why the hell are you doing whatever the hell you are doing? I know you have big plans for the future, just today things are not so great but in the future voila some chamatkaar( miracle ) awaits you. Seriously? Are you this naive? 
          Just do something erratic for once for god's sake. We're so badly stuck in others expectations and in pleasing others. We define our self with other's opinions, please stop doing that to yourself. This ain't the time to please others my friend, this is the time to do something, do something crazy, something out of the league and then you'll understand.
          You probably don't realise but once you stop pleasing others and start doing your thing everything will settle down by itself. Oh ! Come on! You want me to give you some examples? Hitler convinced the whole Germany to burn their fellow countrymen in gas chambers, thousands were burnt, just because he made them believe that it was good for their country, he believed thoroughly in whatever he thought was right and others followed. Gandhi Ji liberated India because he got stuck on his belief, he had thorough faith in it and eventually everybody listened. And believe me people, their journey in this world was one hell of a bumpy ride. People's voices will eventually fade in the background behind the loud noise of your soul. 
          So don't worry dreamers, this all will pass and you will achieve whatever you want to achieve, you just need to curb your desire to please others and please Oh! Please, don't let them make you believe otherwise. We live in a world of dream killers, here everybody wants to kill each other's dream just because they were not able to follow theirs.They may say words like " Oh! you've read too many books, life doesn't work like that." Or " When reality strikes you'll be nowhere." 

"Its good to be a martyr then not have fought at all." 

          Just take a leap of faith people. For your sake, this is your life not anyone else's. Don't be overwhelmed by all the drama around you, write your own script and let the drama unfold according to your terms. There's no time to waste. Only you know what is going on inside you, ask yourself, be honest to yourself. Rise up beyond petty limitations. This is your life live it up to the fullest.

          Don't worry, you will have a lot of opposition and criticism from the world, your parents, your family maybe the whole world but who doesn't ? Tell me who achieved anything in their life without enduring all this? If people are against you, if you have enemies, then ,congratulations! You are making progress my friend, don't back out, keep fighting and eventually it will all be OK! Everything does. Some great man or woman I don't recall the name once said:

  "If everyone is happy with you, you've certainly made a lot of compromises".
          Little children have some traits which if timely recognised will correctly determine what they can do or what they are capable of. But in the process of growing up they're burdened with expectations and false impressions which gets painted on them layer after layer till the soul is lost somewhere and there's no way to reach it. 
      "So now do you want to listen to your heart! LOL, don't kid with me beta!"(Very similar to when Adam Sandler in the movie " You Don't Mess With The Zohan" tells his parents that he wants to become a hairdresser and quit his military career. :DDDD)

•  "You've certainly lost your mind. Bheekh maango ke aage jaakar"( You will have to beg for alms eventually." ) 
• "Dreams are for the rich we have to care about the roti's(bread) first." 
• "Dreams will get you nowhere." 
• "Nikal jao mere ghar se."( "Get out of my house!") 
• "You are a nobody, you only think big, you won't be able to make it." 
• "See the stats, how many think about the same thing that you want to achieve and how many make it big, then weigh your chances, you certainly have no chance." 
• "People give their whole lives to it, you are just a starter."
• "What makes you think that you are different?" 

          Sounds familiar? Then you're certainly making progress.

          Friends, for all I know, dreams are beyond logic, life is too, but this society won't understand, losers wont understand, who live comfy in their big or small houses lost  in the triumph of their fake victories and accomplishments. "I have a stable life." They say proudly. Don't be fooled by them, nothing in life is stable, Earth itself can blow up any time( thanks to global warming ) then how can their lives be stable? Let them live in their false sense of "utopia". 

          So let them go to hell. You win or loose, nobody cares except you yourself. If you win they'll be jealous, if you loose they'll triumph, so why is it that you care for them so much. Just do your thing and let everything go to hell.

          So wake up people. Its our time and nobody can make us believe otherwise, think outrageous things, make impossible goals, achieve something that nobody else was able achieve and trust me you'll achieve it, just have faith, curb your desire to please everybody around you and keep making progress everyday and one day you'll be surprised what you've made out of your life.

          Eventually everyone else will follow!!!