Listen To Your Heart - A Simple Test To Make You Realize What You Really Want !

There are some individuals for whom nothing is impossible and there are some for whom nothing is possible. I wonder what brings about this distinction in people and their way of thinking. Are people born like this? Or eventually turned out to be the way they are by society or by the way they are brought up. I guess this is for the psychologists to find out.

I have come across some pretty good excuses or 'reasons' when people are not able to accomplish something. Some of the classic ones are : I did not want it anyway, I have other options, this was not what I really wanted, I'm satisfied with what I have, and the list goes on. Is this the right attitude? Sometimes Yes! and Sometimes No! Our brain function is complex, but it works in fairly simple ways and that is -

 "Whatever you condition it to believe in, it will give you a thousand reasons as to why you should believe in it". 

It just won't stop making your decision seem rational to you by giving you a hundred more reasons; but your heart functions in a completely different way, inside it knows that you may just be fooling yourself, or this time you may actually be right. One should try and listen to those signals, those butterflies and those emotional pangs when you are saying something that seems rational to your brain but untrue to your heart.

We all know how to listen to the voice inside, but by constant practice and maneuver almost everybody has developed a habit to just ignore it and move on. Moving on is good, sometimes healthy also, but moving on  also gives rise to a lifetime of regrets;moving on also gives rise to guilt. So maybe sometimes it's better to 'not move on' and fix what is broken. Maybe sometimes it's better to listen your heart and feel something that is real and pure. Maybe sometimes in this fast-paced life its better to just sit and listen to the voice inside of you. This voice that is always trying to steer you in the right direction and to the right purpose.

So maybe after reading this post you will think about whether whatever it is that you are saying or commanding yourself to believe in is worth its weight or is it just one more excuse to make your mind find more rational reasons to justify your irrational decisions. 

As a test, whenever you find yourself making that 'classic excuse' just ask yourself - how would you feel when you have achieved that thing from which you are shying away from? Imagine that you have already achieved it. Take a deep breath and give a minute to think about it. How does it feel? If it feels good, then go ahead, try again and give your best this time, and if it doesn't then don't waste your time trying. 

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Good Day Folks - Morning Wishes From A Fellow Indian Friend

I always wonder what would it feel like if the sun rises right in front me at 12 in the midnight while I'm preparing myself for a good night's sleep after finishing the day's work. It’s midnight here in India and almost everyone around me has fallen asleep, so I thought about writing this article for the people living in countries where the sun has already risen or is about to rise.

 Howdy dear friends! Hope your day turns out to be a great. I hope you get through this day without being run over by a vehicle, without slipping and felling on a banana skin, carelessly thrown by some idiot, on the road; without being shouted at by your boss and without having to work for more than 8 hours on this day. I wish that your spouse maintains a good mood throughout the day and treats you with intimate kisses and hugs whenever you meet her and that she does not pester to meet your in-laws and I also wish that she gives you enough space to let you watch your favorite game and most importantly I wish she understands you this day. I hope that your coffee machine does not malfunction and I also hope that your dog does not piss on your couch today. I pray for the late comers that they are able to get the cab on time and are not stymied by traffic along the way. I sincerely wish that your colleague does not try to get credit for your idea, that you secretly told him, by babbling it out to the boss before you were able to. For the single people I wish you get your “damsel in distress” and are able to discover your princely ways and long lost heroism by rescuing her or her Apso (one and the same thing). For the fat ones I hope that “fate keeps you away from Pizza Hut’s way”. For the beautiful I hope your sunscreen does a good job by saving you from all that unhealthy UV radiations and also that your beauty enhancing efforts are recognized in your circle. For the crazy ones I hope you find your craze. For the lazy ones I wish you find a way to earn money by keeping your lethargy and integrity intact. For the hard workers I wish your vacation plan doesn't get screwed and your leaves are approved by your boss. For the nagging ones I hope you do not have a “busy day” .

With all these crazy wishes I wish you all a VERY GOOD MORNING while I will sleep in sleep’s tight and comfy embrace and prepare for my crazy day tomorrow.

Cheers to the Absolute Vodka of our lives - Happy Women's Day

This Women’s Day, cheers to all the women in my life. Thanks to my mom for being my strength and also my worst critic. Thanks to my sis-in-law for her patience in dealing with me. Thanks to my elder sister for making my breakfast at 6 in the morning when I went to school. Thanks to my X girl friend for teaching me that I should not let any girl to get out of my control :D.

I can’t describe and I can’t predict the depth of the effect that these ladies continue to have on my life. Above all a mother is the epitome of patience who lovingly bears all of our tantrums from the day we were born. Your sister is your best companion, your friend, your silent guardian (guards you from dad’s wrath), your teacher (my sis used to teach me math, all the time), she’s the one who’s next to your mother and what not. I can write a book on my sister and yet not be satisfied. Then enters your GF, she teaches you how to control yourself from killing anyone even if you have all the intention to do so. She teaches you that going out in the evening is essential for your well being even if you are in a crisis or in middle of your exams…haha, other than the good part she also teaches you to love, to live and most importantly come out of your beloved couch and really start doing something. Then comes your sis-in-law who is a completely different breed altogether. At first she seems like she’s coming from a different world but after some time she becomes your best companion and inspiration. She teaches you to be patient, she takes care of the family and she understand you. Even if she’s not able to understand your brother she will understand you; she’s a friend and after your sis gets married and leaves you, she’s the one to fill her gap.

A Grand Salute To All These Women, they have been an inspiration. In the end we men know that without the opposite sex we’re an empty mineral water bottle which will only be worth when either it contains mineral water or water mixed with Absolute Vodka. 

Cheers to the Absolute Vodka of our lives. 

You Are A Controversy : LIVE IT !!!!!

"Please every one and you'll be fine. Don't please yourself and one day you'll surely ruin for life."

Have you ever stirred any controversy? Have you ever made heads turn? No? Then dude what are you living for? Ever wondered why the hell are you doing whatever the hell you are doing? I know you have big plans for the future, just today things are not so great but in the future voila some chamatkaar( miracle ) awaits you. Seriously? Are you this naive? 
          Just do something erratic for once for god's sake. We're so badly stuck in others expectations and in pleasing others. We define our self with other's opinions, please stop doing that to yourself. This ain't the time to please others my friend, this is the time to do something, do something crazy, something out of the league and then you'll understand.
          You probably don't realise but once you stop pleasing others and start doing your thing everything will settle down by itself. Oh ! Come on! You want me to give you some examples? Hitler convinced the whole Germany to burn their fellow countrymen in gas chambers, thousands were burnt, just because he made them believe that it was good for their country, he believed thoroughly in whatever he thought was right and others followed. Gandhi Ji liberated India because he got stuck on his belief, he had thorough faith in it and eventually everybody listened. And believe me people, their journey in this world was one hell of a bumpy ride. People's voices will eventually fade in the background behind the loud noise of your soul. 
          So don't worry dreamers, this all will pass and you will achieve whatever you want to achieve, you just need to curb your desire to please others and please Oh! Please, don't let them make you believe otherwise. We live in a world of dream killers, here everybody wants to kill each other's dream just because they were not able to follow theirs.They may say words like " Oh! you've read too many books, life doesn't work like that." Or " When reality strikes you'll be nowhere." 

"Its good to be a martyr then not have fought at all." 

          Just take a leap of faith people. For your sake, this is your life not anyone else's. Don't be overwhelmed by all the drama around you, write your own script and let the drama unfold according to your terms. There's no time to waste. Only you know what is going on inside you, ask yourself, be honest to yourself. Rise up beyond petty limitations. This is your life live it up to the fullest.

          Don't worry, you will have a lot of opposition and criticism from the world, your parents, your family maybe the whole world but who doesn't ? Tell me who achieved anything in their life without enduring all this? If people are against you, if you have enemies, then ,congratulations! You are making progress my friend, don't back out, keep fighting and eventually it will all be OK! Everything does. Some great man or woman I don't recall the name once said:

  "If everyone is happy with you, you've certainly made a lot of compromises".
          Little children have some traits which if timely recognised will correctly determine what they can do or what they are capable of. But in the process of growing up they're burdened with expectations and false impressions which gets painted on them layer after layer till the soul is lost somewhere and there's no way to reach it. 
      "So now do you want to listen to your heart! LOL, don't kid with me beta!"(Very similar to when Adam Sandler in the movie " You Don't Mess With The Zohan" tells his parents that he wants to become a hairdresser and quit his military career. :DDDD)

•  "You've certainly lost your mind. Bheekh maango ke aage jaakar"( You will have to beg for alms eventually." ) 
• "Dreams are for the rich we have to care about the roti's(bread) first." 
• "Dreams will get you nowhere." 
• "Nikal jao mere ghar se."( "Get out of my house!") 
• "You are a nobody, you only think big, you won't be able to make it." 
• "See the stats, how many think about the same thing that you want to achieve and how many make it big, then weigh your chances, you certainly have no chance." 
• "People give their whole lives to it, you are just a starter."
• "What makes you think that you are different?" 

          Sounds familiar? Then you're certainly making progress.

          Friends, for all I know, dreams are beyond logic, life is too, but this society won't understand, losers wont understand, who live comfy in their big or small houses lost  in the triumph of their fake victories and accomplishments. "I have a stable life." They say proudly. Don't be fooled by them, nothing in life is stable, Earth itself can blow up any time( thanks to global warming ) then how can their lives be stable? Let them live in their false sense of "utopia". 

          So let them go to hell. You win or loose, nobody cares except you yourself. If you win they'll be jealous, if you loose they'll triumph, so why is it that you care for them so much. Just do your thing and let everything go to hell.

          So wake up people. Its our time and nobody can make us believe otherwise, think outrageous things, make impossible goals, achieve something that nobody else was able achieve and trust me you'll achieve it, just have faith, curb your desire to please everybody around you and keep making progress everyday and one day you'll be surprised what you've made out of your life.

          Eventually everyone else will follow!!!

                      

जो बात दिल से निकली सत्य है

सोच लो , समझ लो ,

चाहे कितनी ही योजनायें बना लो ,

सत्य समझने की कितनी भी कोशिश कर लो,

कितना भी भूलो-भटको तुम,

अंत में यही पाओगे की,

जो बात दिल से निकली सत्य है.

तुम चले हर जगह.भटके हर जगह,

ना जाने कितने लोगों से मिले,

सबके अलग अलग विचार सुने,

उनकी राह पर चले, गिरे, संभले,

रोये,टूटे और फिर दम से आगे बढे ,

कभी सोचा है की इतनी हिम्मत आई कहा से?

इतना सहना आखिर तुम चाहते क्यों हो?

कितना भी समझ डालो,कितनी भी कोशिशें कर डालो,

अंत में येही पाओगे की,

जो बात दिल से निकली सत्य है.

राह हैं बटी हुई,सौ राहें बनी हुई,

पर तुम्हारे लिए तो एक ही बनी थी, है और रहेगी,

तुम्हारे लिए तो एक ही राह भगवान् ने चुनी,

अपनी आत्मा की आवाज़ को सुनने की आदत डालो,

अपना सत्य स्वयं पहचानो,

तब सारी पहाड़ सी मुश्किलें तिनके में बदल जाएँगी,

और वो सच्ची राह तुम्हे तुम्हारा सरल परिचय कराएंगी, 

तब तुम अंत में यही पाओगे की,

जो बात दिल से निकली सत्य है.

दिल की आवाज़ दबती नहीं लाख दबाई जाये,

खुद से कभी तुम छुप नहीं सकते लाख छुपने की कोशिश की जाये,

दबाना है अगर तो तर्क को दबाओ,

जीवन में तर्क के बजाये दिल का वजूद बढाओ,

तब ये श्रृष्टि तुम्हारे कदम चूमेगी,

तुम्हारे इर्द गिर्द सारी दुनिया घूमेगी,

तब तुम ये समझ जाओगे की,

जो बात दिल से निकली सत्य है.

जो करना है आज कर डालो, जो कहना है आज कह डालो,
मौत का भय किसी को जीने नहीं देता,

मरता हर कोई एक बार है बार बार कोई नहीं मरता,

जब इस हिम्मत से तुम आगे बढोगे,

तब हर सर तुम्हारे आगे सजदे करेंगे,

तब सच में समझोगे तुम,

जो बात दिल से निकली सत्य है.

जो जिद्द करते हैं उन्ही का ये जहाँ सारा है,

बिना जिद्द के बताओ किसने कहाँ क्या परबत उखाड़ा है,

जिद्द करो इस जीवन में, यह तुम्हारा है,

इसका सफल  प्रयोग इश्वर ने तुम्हारे हाथ में डाला है,

चलो आगे बढ़ो ये संसार तुम्हारा है,
तब अंत में येही पाओगे की,

जो बात दिल से निकली सत्य है.

Hell ! Just Do It And Do It Right Now !

There's a ancient saying" Take a leap of faith ". That means you take a leap and don't worry about falling. Some great man said I can't quote this exact words but the meaning is somewhat close to this :

Jump from the highest peak and make a parachute on the way.(Please don't try this at home or outside :::DDDDD)

  Well after sometime you are past that pit, you've taken the leap everything goes fine and then someday you realise that that jump was not worth at all so you take a jump back ( or get thrown back) and come back to the side you were before. Ready to take the leap again? You bet! You wanna do it all over again and again and again. So persistent are we, humans(especially when it comes to doing something for something we love). This phenomenon could be very often seen in romantic relations but very uncommon when it comes to achieving your goal or some other non-fatal highly rewarding work that'll surely give you something to brag about your whole life. Humans can't be blamed because blinded by society and its imperfections impregnated in them with centuries of nagging and instructing and  traditions and taboo they have become increasing programmed to believe in something they shouldn't. People are becoming increasingly afraid in taking the leap of faith and want to remain on the safer side and hence lead constrained lives. Some of us don't even know what real happiness is. Many haven't felt the feeling of butterflies in their stomach and believe me its the best feeling. It sure gives me a feeling that I'm alive, try that sometime.
Start now people, think about something that gives you butterflies in your stomach(only non criminal ones are encouraged) and do that thing. It could be talking to some random girl or a girl you love( and you don't want to confess your love to her future not so yours babies : D), maybe you want to confess something  to your father or you wanna go skydiving. Just go do it. You wont get tomorrow, its today that you have and DARR KE AAGE JEET HAI( After fear somes victory ), so go for it and see how it feels and do tell me how it feels :DDDDD.................